Thursday, October 18, 2012

IT'S JUST FREAKING MASHED POTATOES!!

We have a routine every Sunday night after dinner and Zach never lets us forget.  We set the dinner menu for the week, and everyone picks a day and a meal.  Why do we do this you wonder?  For years it was very difficult to get Zach to try new foods or to get him to eat the food we had prepared for dinner.  Often times Zach would have a completely different meal from the rest of us.  Years ago we realized we could not live with making two different meals for dinner and plus Zach needed to learn to try new things.  In general everyone has sensitivities to certain smells and taste, but with autistic children I think that sensitivity is slightly greater than most.

We started with putting new food on his plate with a simple rule, “You have to try everything on your plate.”   We did not expect Zach to finish everything we had him try, but getting him just to try it at times was a battle and a half.  He would object at times just by the appearance of the food and other times he would smell the food before objecting.  There were times that he would try a new food and actually like it and wanted more of it.  The menu was introduced after Zach would come home from school, find out what we were having and either start objecting or had a meltdown, because it was something he did not pick or want. By writing out the dinner menu it visually and mentally prepares Zach for what is to come, and it has made a huge difference at dinner time and at the dinner table. 

As time has passed and Zach has matured his menu selections have grown leaps and bounds, but there is one item he cannot stand to even try.  He will eat potato chips and tater tots, but my word you put mash potatoes on his plate and you are in for dinner time war.  Not sure if it is the texture, smell or taste, but he wants nothing to do with it.  The other night we had mash potatoes and we only wanted him to try it.  You would have thought we were asking him to give us his left kidney or right lung.  Complete meltdown with loud verbal objecting to the point he started yelling, and I had to remove him from the table for a time out.   Forty-five minutes later he calmed down, but due to being so upset he did not eat much dinner at all that night.  All this objecting about mash potatoes from a kid, who once dipped dill pickles in Italian Wedding soup.  IT’S JUST FREAKING MASH POTATOES.   Both of his parents are very stubborn people…so we will try to get Zach to eat mash potatoes again and the next time we plan on having mash potatoes is Thanksgiving.  Dear Zach, thanking you in advance for trying mashed potatoes on Thanksgiving.      

 

Saturday, October 13, 2012

Pumpkin Light Meltdown

We have this electric pumpkin we have been lighting at night, because it is October and Halloween is just around the corner.  Zach absolutely loves this pumpkin and is one of the main reasons why we have it on display.  So, the other day the light bulb blew out and Zach was not happy.  He started yelling, “The lights out, the lights out.  Fix it! Fix it!”  We did not have a spare bulb in the house and Zach started crying about the fact his pumpkin would not be lit for the night.  He wanted it fixed and he wanted it fixed now.  As much as we tried to explain and redirect him that the light could not be fixed at that very moment he continued to tail spin and spiral into an emotional meltdown. 

Thankfully I had to go to the grocery store to pick up a prescription so I invited Zach to come along and told him we could get a new light bulb.  We arrived at the store and found Zach’s bulb for the pumpkin.  We then were standing in line for my prescription, which seem to take forever.  Zach continued to hold the light bulb package and gripped so tight you would have thought it was the last light bulb available in the world.  Then without any provocation Zach stood next to me, put his hand on my shoulder and said, “I can’t believe it  dad…I can’t believe I cried for some pumpkin lights.”   “No sh*t” I said to myself…and Zach was quiet the rest of the night. 

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Amazon Europe

I receive a lot of page views from people around the globe.  For those of you who live outside the United States and interested in purchasing my book it is available through Amazon Europe.  Take care everyone...Eric

Monday, October 8, 2012

The Book

The book, A Road Less Traveled; A Father's Odyssey Through Autism is now available for purchase through Smashwords at http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/243434.  Through Smashwords you can purchase and download an electronic copy to devices, such as, Nook, Sony Reader, Kobo, and others.

The BIG announcement is here!!!! The BOOK is HERE!!!!


If you have enjoyed reading the blog maybe you will also enjoy reading the book.  A Road Less Traveled; A Father’s Odyssey Through Autism, is now available for Amazon Kindle at http://www.amazon.com/dp/B009NFXQAE or trade paperback at https://www.createspace.com/4012861.

From the back cover: Zach was two months shy of his third birthday when he was diagnosed with autism and as he struggled to understand and adapt to the world around him, his father struggled to understand the diagnosis and the means to help him. Feeling devastated about his son, Eric's inability to cope and accept his son for the unique person he had become and not for the diagnosis he was given caused Eric to spiral into severe depression resulting in hospitalization.

In this story, Eric Griffith gives a real and honest view of raising a child with autism from a father's perspective and a family's effort to make a better future for their child. A Road Less Traveled chronicles the impact an autism diagnosis has on the family, the battle to find funding and programming, the conflict about what causes autism, testing of one's faith, coping with negative public perceptions, the fun and humor Zach brings to the lives around him, and providing hope for a child with disability that has no cure. This story will inspire, humor, and touch on every human emotion of all parents.
I Hope you enjoy it!!!!
 

BIG announcement is coming

A BIG announcement is coming soon from A Father's Odyssey Through Autism.  Stay tuned!

Friday, October 5, 2012

A Story About Autism in Russia

I recently read an article (link attached) about the plight of families raising a child with autism in Russia.  It made me appreciate the fact I am raising my child in the United States where there are many programs available, research being conducted for a cause and cure, and greater societal acceptance of those with disabilities.  The most disappointing or unfortunately part of the article were the negative comments regarding autism from those in positions of power, who could make a positive change on the lives of those living with a disability.  According to the article, a Moscow city official, Sergei Buyankin, was quoted as saying, “Hitler buried kids like this in the ground”, while speaking about a local private school that helps special needs children.  Note to Sergei Buyankin, come to America and say that about my kid, and I suggest you put on an athletic cup to protect your private parts.

In regards to societal stigmas or ignorance, the Moscow Aquarium refused to allow a group of autistic children admission, because “visitors do not like to see the disabled-it disappoints them.  It is unacceptable.”  To all Russian families raising a child with autism,  bring your kids to the United States and you can visit any aquarium you want.  We will start at the New England Aquarium in Massachusetts, go to the Atlanta Aquarium in Georgia, tour the Newport Aquarium in Kentucky, and finish at the Columbus Zoo and Aquarium in my home town of Columbus, Ohio.  You will not be refused or shunned at any of the facilities, and fun will be had by all without societal stigmas. 
Debby and I have always been appreciative that we live in the United States and have tremendous programs available to us for our son, because I could not imagine what our life and more importantly our son’s life would be like living in places like Russia.  The United States is not without individuals suffering from blatant ignorance either.  Debby and I have dealt with and confronted situations from others, such as, stares when our son is not behaving in public the way he should and comments from strangers as well.  For the most part, people in the United States have been very receptive and supportive of people on the autism spectrum.